On officer breaks:

No matter how much you might like to, you should never allow yourself to go off and tell an officer to take their dramatic pause and go fuck themselves. Because whether you realize it or not, they're usually pretty good about absorbing your own little dramas.

So when a guy needs to flake out and take a break, you let him do it. You let him do it without bullshit, without overmuch comment beyond what you know is acceptable in your relationship, and you just ride it out. If it's the sort of officer break that's going to affect the guild, start thinking about how to adjust to it. It's about all you can do.

In the end, it's just a game. The friendships, relationships, and emotional investments are real - value those. The rest of it? Eh, whatever.